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Dating For Geeks

Just got back from my workout, and I had an epiphany: Some guys do not know how to woo a woman. I don’t presume to be an expert, but I know someone who is.

Not Barry, even though he has women falling all over themselves to get to him.

No, this person is someone who has written a book specifically for men who are lost in the world of romance. This is why she has created the book:

Dating Power Tools: The Regular Guy’s Guide to Dating Smarter, Not Harder (Paperback). Click the picture to buy this from Amazon.com…

Interestingly enough, I know of another book that is a bit more “geek-centric” — a book full of design patterns for dating! I highly recommend this one because it’s hilarious, and it provides much needed insight into the process of wooing a mate.

Dating Design Patterns — Click the picture to go to the author’s website.

It’s an awesome book (also written by someone I know) and even comes with a cool diagram showing the relationships between all of the patterns, while still provdiing insightful commentary on how best to utilize patterns like:

Pan-Dimensional Renaissance Differentiator: Perfecting the well-rounded appeal women love. Also includes differentiation from other competitors for scarce female resources.
Fifth Position Break: Simply uses the social structure available to skilled dancers to allow any man contact with any woman in the room. Called “the Ultimate pattern.”
Trojan Proxy: An extremely effective, low-risk high-planning pattern for connecting through a third-party safe proxy. Strategies include children, pets, female friends, and married male friends
Classic Method Call: The recommended parameters for Just Asking.
Half Bad Boy Plus Protocol: Structuring one’s appeal based on equal parts considerate gentlemanly attributes and “bad boy” behavior or facade
Cary Grant Helper: Originally called “Pull out a chair, get laid,” the gist is that the classic gentlemanly behavior cannot be unappealing. Implements the Gentleman 1.0 specification.

And remember kids, only “Dating Design Patterns” is based on real-world research!

I ran the entire program today, Saturday April 5th. Got up and got dressed in the Decorator suit, then hit the antique stores (Exposed Accelerated Collector). Had brunch with Lucy and Cindy and got Cindy’s number, though Lucy called later and asked me to teach her to ski (Big Fat Opening). Did the volunteer work for Humane Society 2-4 and got to know Leslie; am working on her from the Trojan Facade angle and am planning for her to invite me camping over Memorial Day. Finally, implemented Interested Listener on date with Sonja with spectacular results. Am discovering more patterns and strategies every day but think IL is most effective. More later; she just came out of the bathroom.

—Christopher Alexander

8 November 2005 | Advice, Sex, The Web | Comments